So, Summer has officially come to an end (even if the weather isn’t saying so just yet- I’m actually typing this while sat outside trying to soak up the last of the sun) and the thought of Autumn has me scrambling to hold onto my tan for as long as naturally possible. FYI, I am not a sun bed user and aren’t so much a fan of fake tan, so they are out of the equation! I could book flights to a hotter destination, which may still happen, but as a quick fix to maintain healthy glowing skin I’m choosing to ramp up the moisturising!
Insecurities are something that creep up on all of us at some point in life. Chances are, there will always be something that we would want to be different. We all get a little down every now and again or wish that we could change that thing about ourselves. Do you know what? It’s completely natural. I’m sure you know the saying, ‘Nobody’s perfect.’ Well, it’s kind of true. Each and every single person is unique and even though there may be somebody that you look up to- that person who radiates confidence, a role model or someone who encapsulates your idea of perfection- it’s likely, if not certain, that they have their own insecurities too.
It’s been a little while since I wrote a blog post discussing my views on social media- a topic that you all know I love to analyse. Over the past week, there have been several conversations raised amongst my friends and colleagues around Instagrammers editing their pictures and it got me thinking…
I honestly cannot remember the last day I went without taking a photograph. Whether it’s of my outfit, face (sorry), food, a cute view or even a screenshot- I’m pretty sure this counts as a photo, no?- I’m always snapping away. Partly because it’s my job to do so, but also because I simply just love it. I have over 13,000 images stored on my phone and there would probably be more if it wasn’t for my storage allowance.
It’s kind of great that we’re able to document every moment. It allows us to reminisce on nearly every single day of our lives… wow. I love how technology enables us to do this however, I can’t help but feel like there’s nothing better than looking through a good old photo album or having pictures displayed around the home. Wouldn’t it be great if we could print the best of these memories straight from our phone into actual photographs at the click of a button? Well now you can, anytime, anywhere and all for free.
So the weather here in the UK has been miserable for the last few weeks, leaving everybody feeling ready to book their 2018 getaway(/s). I love to travel, always choosing to visit as many hot destinations as my bank account allows, so you would think by now that I would have nailed packing light… Unfortunately, this isn’t the case. I’m a, ‘better too much than too little’ kind of gal. However, I do have a list of key items that I always pack no matter what. Take a look below at what items travel with me wherever I go:
Darker evenings and colder mornings are upon us, which means one thing. Winter is near. The weather may be looking pretty dull, but that doesn’t mean that your skin has to too. Here are my go-to skincare products for keeping my skin healthy, hydrated and glowing throughout the cold winter months.
For Your Face
If you’re looking for a product to intensely hydrate your skin then Dr. Roebuck’s Ultimite Hydrating Serum (£51) at Selfridges may just do the trick. Dr. Roebuck’s pride themselves on using natural and ‘minimal ingredients with maximum results.’ I headed to Selfridges and picked up a personalised serum for my skin type and am in love (ask in store for details). I find that the serum also help add that dewy look to your skin if you’re going make up free.
I haven’t written anything personal in a while yet I think it’s about time that I do so, especially seeing as I’ve got a certain issue on my mind; body positivity.
Social media is great. It helps us connect with people that we may never have had a chance to encounter otherwise. It builds friendships, has helped many to find love, provides hours of fun and can be a great motivational tool (if you’re following the right feeds). On the other hand, there are a few issues generated from social networks that are pretty unhealthy to say the least. It can cause feuds, end relationships, feed our shopping obsessions, leaving your bank balance feeling pretty sorry for itself, and can turn even the most sane of us into obsessive stalkers. It’s OK, we’ve all been there.
The thing is, actions that would be frowned upon in real life become acceptable in our online world. We can see everything and if we can’t, we’ll find a way to do so. Crazy, I know.
‘What does this have anything to do with body positivity?’ I hear you say. Well, let me explain. Everything that we see and become obsessed with online, sparks how we feel in person. When we feel inadequate on social media, we also feel it in real life. Yes, it can bring the highs, but it can bring us crashing down just as quickly.
World renowned author, Paulo Coelho, writes that, ‘Two things prevent us from happiness; living in the past and observing others.’ Let’s focus on the latter. Yes, we are able to observe people in person, yet a deeper insight into lives from across the world is so easily accessible via social media that we can’t help but to look at it. With observation comes analysis and the dangerous act of comparison.
‘OMG, that bikini is amazing.’ *Clicks onto bikini page* ‘Ohhh that girl looks great in it…’ *Clicks onto girl’s feed* ‘Look how stunning she is!’ *Studies a few images* ‘How does she get her waist to be so tiny?!’ *10 images later* ‘Why aren’t my boobs that big… No, her butt cannot be real! Seriously, look how toned her legs are. If only I looked like this…’ *Now studying every single one of her friends* ‘All of these girls are gorgeous. I’m so ugly, hate my belly, wish my bum was bigger, oh and I’m getting a boob job.’ *Scrolled way back to 2015 on several Instagram accounts, now knows bikini girls life story and has eaten three packets of crisps while acquiring all of this really useful information*. You get the idea.
The thing is, it’s so easy for us to doubt our own image (amongst other things but let’s stick to image for the sake of this post) that we suddenly have insecurities that we weren’t quite so concerned about before and do you know what the worst part is? Social media isn’t real. The forced poses, 100’s of snaps before we get the right shot, filters and if we’re taking it to another level, bought followers and editing apps. You wouldn’t believe how many girls edit their pictures to make their boobs and bums bigger and waists smaller and it looks so believable. All of this for the gram, perhaps to hide their own insecurities and to portray a life that’s a little bit shinier than it actually is- making anybody admiring it feel a little less sparkly.
So I ask one thing. Carry on with social media and spend your time on their as you please, but do remember to take everything with a pinch of salt and most of all, don’t forget to focus on your own body more than anybody else’s. The most powerful thing- even more powerful than social media- is your own sense of self worth. Feeling more confident in our skin can have a number of benefits on our attitude, drive and success. Embrace your body with all of it’s beauty and flaws. Love it, rock it, live in it and try tell me that doesn’t feel great.