Feeling Insecure? I’ve Got You!

Insecurities are something that creep up on all of us at some point in life. Chances are, there will always be something that we would want to be different. We all get a little down every now and again or wish that we could change that thing about ourselves. Do you know what? It’s completely natural.  I’m sure you know the saying, ‘Nobody’s perfect.’ Well, it’s kind of true. Each and every single person is unique and even though there may be somebody that you look up to- that person who radiates confidence, a role model or someone who encapsulates your idea of perfection- it’s likely, if not certain, that they have their own insecurities too.

I definitely have parts of me that I would like to be that little bit different. However, I’m at a stage where I have learnt to love myself as I am, ‘imperfections’ and all. Of course there are areas that I am working to change through exercise and a balanced diet but there are also areas that neither exercise nor diet can effect and that’s OK. Learning to love each and every part of ourselves is almost never an easy journey. We all have days where we feel incredible and others where we feel not-so-incredible. Here are my tips on how to beat the insecurities on those not-so-incredible days.

  1. Make a list of what you like most about yourself. It can be absolutely anything from the colour of your eyes to your smile or that you get freckles in the sun. It can even be something that isn’t physical such as a personality trait or that you like your laugh! List at least five things and when you’re feeling down revisit them.
  2. Determine whether there is anything that you can do to make a change. Sometimes there are things that we don’t like about our body or behaviour that we can actually do something about such as losing or gaining weight, toning up and even improving our skin through sleep and diet. Assess whether you’re taking the right steps to help you see changes (to your body, attitude and confidence) and they may happen sooner than you think.
  3. Realise that sometimes you don’t need to change… Sometimes we can get so caught up in what we ‘should’ look like that we forget to appreciate what we do look like. I’m a regular height athletic girl working in an industry where I’m ‘supposed’ to be super tall and skinny. It used to bother me and I would always wear heeled boots to castings, that was until I realised that my power is me. As soon as I took that on board, I saw that my confidence and career took a turn for the best.
  4. Sleep! You would be surprised at the effect that sleep can have on both your body and your mentality. I always find that when I’m tired I feel more bloated, my eyes aren’t so bright and I can get grumpy. As soon as I catch up on sleep I instantly feel more refreshed and body confident, as well as being in a better mood! We’re always tougher critics of ourselves when we haven’t had enough sleep, so make time for the Zzz’s.
  5. Take time to focus on yourself. Do you feel better when you have freshly painted nails, after a nice long soak in a bubble bath or even after curling up on the sofa watching your fave movie? Dedicating time to do things that make us happy can have a real effect on our mindset. Set aside time each week to do something that you really love.
  6. Stop comparing to others. For me, this is the biggest factor that feeds insecurities especially with the rise of social media and celebrity influence. It’s not always bad to compare but if you find that it’s bringing you down then you need to stop or simply even change who you are comparing yourself to. Perhaps you don’t like your body type and keep comparing yourself to people with a completely different figure, this is only going to be detrimental. Why not show some love to people who are similar to you and who rock their features with confidence. Remember, you are you and that is your power.
  7. Go offline. On the back of Tip 6, social media can be a main cause of insecurities. If you do find that you’re spending far too much time online, have a little cleanse. Even just a day offline can work wonders.
  8. Do a little life clear out. OK, so not all insecurities stem from within. Sometimes, it can be the people and things that we surround ourselves with that are the problem. I’ve personally previously been in a toxic relationship that had a huge effect on my confidence. It wasn’t until I removed myself from the situation that I was able to fully love and be myself again. Often we don’t consider that impact that who we choose to spend time with has on us. Are there any friends that you need to keep at a distance or a relationship that’s doing more harm than good? It’s not always the more the merrier.
  9. Exercise! OK, so it’s not everyone’s fave thing to do. I get it. But exercise has been proven to boost your mood through the release of endorphins, which are known to trigger a positive feeling in the body. Exercise doesn’t just have to be for physical benefits you know.
  10. Spend time doing something that you’re good at. From playing a sport, to painting, reading a book or cooking, whatever it is that you know you’re great at, do it! I love to run and am good at it so I always feel great when I’ve been on a run, even if I wasn’t initially feeling in the mood to go on one. There’s something about taking part in the things that we’re good at that gives us a real confidence boost. Try it and see.

A final reminder from myself that every single person feels insecure at some point in their lives. It’s completely natural to feel that way but doesn’t mean that there is actually anything to feel insecure about. Be you, it doesn’t get much better than that!

How To Print Photographs Straight From Your Phone… For Free!

I honestly cannot remember the last day I went without taking a photograph. Whether it’s of my outfit, face (sorry), food, a cute view or even a screenshot- I’m pretty sure this counts as a photo, no?- I’m always snapping away. Partly because it’s my job to do so, but also because I simply just love it. I have over 13,000 images stored on my phone and there would probably be more if it wasn’t for my storage allowance.

It’s kind of great that we’re able to document every moment. It allows us to reminisce on nearly every single day of our lives… wow. I love how technology enables us to do this however, I can’t help but feel like there’s nothing better than looking through a good old photo album or having pictures displayed around the home. Wouldn’t it be great if we could print the best of these memories straight from our phone into actual photographs at the click of a button? Well now you can, anytime, anywhere and all for free.

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My Health & Beauty Travel Essentials

So the weather here in the UK has been miserable for the last few weeks, leaving everybody feeling ready to book their 2018 getaway(/s). I love to travel, always choosing to visit as many hot destinations as my bank account allows, so you would think by now that I would have nailed packing light… Unfortunately, this isn’t the case. I’m a, ‘better too much than too little’ kind of gal. However, I do have a list of key items that I always pack no matter what. Take a look below at what items travel with me wherever I go:

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My Favourite Skincare For Face & Body

Darker evenings and colder mornings are upon us, which means one thing. Winter is near. The weather may be looking pretty dull, but that doesn’t mean that your skin has to too. Here are my go-to skincare products for keeping my skin healthy, hydrated and glowing throughout the cold winter months.

For Your Face

Deep Hydration

If you’re looking for a product to intensely hydrate your skin then Dr. Roebuck’s Ultimite Hydrating Serum (£51) at Selfridges may just do the trick. Dr. Roebuck’s pride themselves on using natural and ‘minimal ingredients with maximum results.’ I headed to Selfridges and picked up a personalised serum for my skin type and am in love (ask in store for details). I find that the serum also help add that dewy look to your skin if you’re going make up free.

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Image Source: Selfridges.com

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Let’s Talk Body Positivity

I haven’t written anything personal in a while yet I think it’s about time that I do so, especially seeing as I’ve got a certain issue on my mind; body positivity.

Social media is great. It helps us connect with people that we may never have had a chance to encounter otherwise. It builds friendships, has helped many to find love, provides hours of fun and can be a great motivational tool (if you’re following the right feeds). On the other hand, there are a few issues generated from social networks that are pretty unhealthy to say the least. It can cause feuds, end relationships, feed our shopping obsessions, leaving your bank balance feeling pretty sorry for itself, and can turn even the most sane of us into obsessive stalkers. It’s OK, we’ve all been there.

The thing is, actions that would be frowned upon in real life become acceptable in our online world. We can see everything and if we can’t, we’ll find a way to do so. Crazy, I know.

‘What does this have anything to do with body positivity?’ I hear you say. Well, let me explain. Everything that we see and become obsessed with online, sparks how we feel in person. When we feel inadequate on social media, we also feel it in real life. Yes, it can bring the highs, but it can bring us crashing down just as quickly. 

World renowned author, Paulo Coelho, writes that, ‘Two things prevent us from happiness; living in the past and observing others.’ Let’s focus on the latter. Yes, we are able to observe people in person, yet a deeper insight into lives from across the world is so easily accessible via social media that we can’t help but to look at it. With observation comes analysis and the dangerous act of comparison. 

‘OMG, that bikini is amazing.’ *Clicks onto bikini page* ‘Ohhh that girl looks great in it…’ *Clicks onto girl’s feed* ‘Look how stunning she is!’ *Studies a few images* ‘How does she get her waist to be so tiny?!’ *10 images later* ‘Why aren’t my boobs that big… No, her butt cannot be real! Seriously, look how toned her legs are. If only I looked like this…’ *Now studying every single one of her friends* ‘All of these girls are gorgeous. I’m so ugly, hate my belly, wish my bum was bigger, oh and I’m getting a boob job.’ *Scrolled way back to 2015 on several Instagram accounts, now knows bikini girls life story and has eaten three packets of crisps while acquiring all of this really useful information*. You get the idea.

The thing is, it’s so easy for us to doubt our own image (amongst other things but let’s stick to image for the sake of this post) that we suddenly have insecurities that we weren’t quite so concerned about before and do you know what the worst part is? Social media isn’t real. The forced poses, 100’s of snaps before we get the right shot, filters and if we’re taking it to another level, bought followers and editing apps. You wouldn’t believe how many girls edit their pictures to make their boobs and bums bigger and waists smaller and it looks so believable. All of this for the gram, perhaps to hide their own insecurities and to portray a life that’s a little bit shinier than it actually is- making anybody admiring it feel a little less sparkly.

So I ask one thing. Carry on with social media and spend your time on their as you please, but do remember to take everything with a pinch of salt and most of all, don’t forget to focus on your own body more than anybody else’s. The most powerful thing- even more powerful than social media- is your own sense of self worth. Feeling more confident in our skin can have a number of benefits on our attitude, drive and success. Embrace your body with all of it’s beauty and flaws. Love it, rock it, live in it and try tell me that doesn’t feel great.

If There’s One Thing That You Do Today, Make Sure That It’s This.

I was reading an article last night that stated, ‘one in 40,000 people naturally have a model’s body type.‘ If you know me or have been following my blog for any length of time, then you will know that I feel very strongly about the impact that social media has on society and in particular, on self-esteem.

Social media (and media in general) has become a way to fill our minds with ‘what we want to be’, making us feel that little less happy with ourselves as we are, in the hope that we will buy into something else to make ourselves feel better. Whether the purchase is a product or lifestyle, it seems that we are always comparing and aspiring to be something that we’re not. This has to stop.

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