January; the start of a new year and for many a new chapter. This first month of the year is often looked upon as a chance to turn a new page, to start afresh or to improve on ones current lifestyle or habits.
Call me boring but Sunday is one of my favourite days (after Friday & Saturday of course). Lie ins, movies, roast dinner and spending quality time with friends and family. What’s not to like? Yesterday I spent my Sunday just the way I like, catching up with the girls and after a whole three months of not seeing one and other, we definitely had a lot to catch up on! Queue the main topic of conversation… boys.
Now to any guys out there reading this, please don’t get all egotistical and think that women just talk about men 24/7, because that’s not true. But I’d be lying if I were to say that you don’t take up a good chunk of our time. We’re usually either complaining about you, trying to work out if you fancy us, trying to work out if we fancy you, or simply just checking that hottie out from across the room. Now, as we sat with our cake and coffee- fresh orange juice for me because I refuse to fully enter adulthood and be a coffee-lover just yet- we jumped straight to our favourite topic.
It might not be the new year yet, or even a new week, but it’s definitely the right time for me to start setting some new goals. Sometimes we all need to take a step back, see the greater picture and pick out what we actually want to achieve. So here’s my goal, which has been the mission statement of Tigeress Lifestyle all along, it’s just only now that I can clearly see it.
“I will inspire women (and men) across the world to not only take care of their bodies and to enjoy doing so, but to love themselves without aspiring or conforming to social ‘ideals’.”
Kirby Anne Akindeinde- Founder of Tigeress Lifestyle
What will you choose to do?
We get so worried about being pretty. Let’s be pretty smart. Pretty kind. Pretty funny. Pretty strong.
Happy New Week, Tigers xx
Compete, but only with yourself.
There’s a whole new world out there. It’s filled with glistening oceans, glowing skin, sun rays, heavenly creatures and the finest of food. A place where worries don’t exist, where money grows on trees and where work is not needed. It’s accessible to everyone, yet only a certain handful know how to play in its green grasses successfully. We’ve all been there, we’ve all seen it, all experienced a taste of its luscious offering. You probably walked along its sandy beaches today without even realising. It was most likely the first place you checked in. It’s so close to the hearts of reality yet so far from being real. This place, this magical world of fantasy has a name we’ve all heard of. Welcome to the world of Social Media.
Ok, so I might of exaggerated a little bit. We weren’t really walking across sandy beaches this morning. Well, you might have been and if so, lucky you! But social media allows us to feel that we are. It allows us to connect with every corner of the world and see sights we never thought possible. It also opens up a whole new door of comparison and a dangerous one at that.
Gorgeous girls with huge smiles, gleaming teeth and radiant skin, living in beach huts and sipping cocktails all day with no worry of gaining weight yet maintaining that to-die-for bod. Muscular hunks, again with huge smiles, gleaming teeth and radiant skin, living in beach huts and… you get the picture. Yes, these people do exist and yes, they probably do have rather nice lives and are pretty goddam hot, but not everything is as it seems. Social media gives everybody and anybody the chance to make their life seem a little more sparkly than it really is. When social media is involved, who needs work? Who needs to take a million selfies to get that perfect snap? It’s a portrayal of all the best bits- with a nice big filter for extra enhancement. There’s no BTS (think wobbling around on a chair to get the money shot of that delicious meal or the make-up session before the I-woke-up-like-this picture) and definitely no snaps of the bad times. It can have us questioning what we’re doing wrong and how we can have a big chunky slice of the good stuff- all day every day.
What I’m trying to say is, that we shouldn’t be made to feel insecure or any less because our lives aren’t as ‘perfect’ as these social media kings and queens. Chances are, they’ve had a pretty bad day and have looked way back in their photo streams to find that beach day pic. Does #TBT ring any bells?
Don’t get me wrong, I think social media is fab. We can interact with people like never before, network, secure jobs and build careers, be inspired and share ideas. It really is amazing, yet you need to know how to use it smartly. How to not get so involved that you live in its exaggerated walls. How not to compare and how not fall into the trap of competing with an unrealistic portrayal of life. What we do need to concentrate on is doing us.
I’ll let you in on a secret. Once you learn to compete only with yourself, you will love yourself and others for it so much more. It’s the best kind of feeling and with enough work and self-competition, you’ll be living your big slice of heaven in no time.